We all have various types of fears and among them, the fear of not having enough money when it is needed the most ranks high. Perhaps, we have developed this money fear during our childhood. Our parents or other elders who might have been oblivious of our presence might have discussed the bills they had to pay and the wide gaps between their incomes and their domestic expenditure. We need not dig into the aspect of how this money fear has sneaked into our minds. But we have to worry about the offshoots of this fear.
Some of the offshoots of this money fear are: "We do not deserve education from Ivy schools, cannot become entrepreneurs, or cannot land jobs that require high qualifications." To put this differently, thoughts such as "these things are only for the affluent" and "we cannot afford them" get etched in our subconscious minds. The fact is that these thoughts belong to a category known as "mind trash" and they are worth getting rid of. But how do you get rid of them? Experts suggest a few ways using which we can erase these thoughts from our minds and implant a "we deserve them also" attitude in their place. The following are the steps that need to be followed.
1. You cannot change your past and so, accept it.
Can you change your past? The answer is a big "No." Of course, had we had good backgrounds, it might have been easy for us to pursue our passion or lead the lifestyles of the affluent folks. But at the same time, it is wrong to think that you do not deserve them or you cannot achieve them since you do not have such backgrounds. You should accept this in order to move to the next step. If you keep clinging to your past, the limitations and fears that have been haunting you will not leave you.
2. Stop comparing your situations with those of people with good backgrounds.
Comparing your present circumstances or your past with others is futile. Further, these comparisons will upset you so much that you will start doubting your abilities. Such doubts will add to your mind trash.
3. Focus on your aspirations and choose only those that can take you ahead.
This step will help you jettison those aspirations that shackle you and do not allow you to move ahead.
4. Identify the patterns that distract you from the chosen aspirations.
Do an introspection and find out the habit patterns that place hurdles along your path. For example, if you have to master a particular subject and if you waste your time on social networking sites instead of studying, you are allowing distractions to overpower you. Remember that even if you take incremental steps, you will come out of the habit completely sooner than expected.
5. Build the edifice of "you," steadily, and consistently.
Building a personality is analogous to building an edifice. So, building the edifice of "you" needs steady and consistent practice. But the edifice will be strong only if you use bricks made of "positive thoughts" about your abilities. So, cultivate the habit of thinking positively about your abilities. Once you succeed in building a strong personality that does not succumb to distractions or negatives, you can easily get rid of the mind trash that has accumulated in your mind. Then, success in your career or life will become low-hanging fruit.
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